instant thorts: Age of Concern.
Age of Consent or Age of Concern?
Back on 22 August (2012), I wrote a post about the age of consent. I explained that my almost sixteen-year-old had told she’d read across Google that the age of consent was being dropped to 14. I quickly ‘Googled it’ and found all sorts of info. Some good, some not so good. It didn’t take me long to find a reliable source: On February 16th of 2007 the Telegraph ran this headline:
“She goes on to state what this academic report suggests dropping the age of consent to 14 with restrictions so that the 40% of 15-year-olds who admit to having had sex (not oral sex but full intercourse) would not be breaking the law. This is a good but radical article.” – from instant thorts: Age of Concern.
For any parent -looking at their child – before their sweet sixteenth- the consideration of them having consentual-sex isn’t just scary, its paralyzing. Theirs the obvious fear of pregnancy, STDs, and peer-pressure. For even the most rational of us, even the most liberal, this is such an alien concept that my usually-rational parental mind at first screamed out “NO!!!” in disgust.
“It seems so long since I was a horny teenager, that I’ve buried those emotional realities by my parental concerns. As a dad I’m applaud by the thought of my teenage daughter being sexually active. We’ve done the talks about safe sex and contraception -so I’m aware of what is expected of parents today.” – from instant thorts: Age of Concern.
As a realist, I have no illusions what teenagers get up to. As I said in my post, “its hard for a dad to let his little girl grow-up into young woman”. In that post I recommended (and still do) that any parent should read the Telegraph’s article; as it is an eye-opener for any mum or dad.
“I just wonder if lowering the age of concern will make children more responsible than they currently aren’t (or than we were at their ages)… I seriously doubt it!” – from instant thorts: Age of Concern.
Not long after doing the “instant thorts” post, my (still not quite sixteen-year-old) daughter had the implant put into her arm (with mine and her mum’s permission, thankfully). She was having trouble deciding if she should or not, so we had one of those talks that dad’s dread (but mum’s seem to handle without too much problem).
Her concern what people would think. (Originally, she was having problems with heavy periods, which were affecting her moods and hormones in a distressing manner. She was having a hell of a time. so after a talk with her doctor and advice from her mum, she decided on the bar and contraceptive pills to dampen the aggressive effects.) It boiled down to whether she wanted an easier time, or worry about other people’s opinions of her. She opted for an easier time.
I have to say I’m pleased that she was sensible, and grown-up; at least she’s now safe – if she does do what so many girls younger then her do. The only safe sex might be no sex. But try telling a teenager that! I can hear them laughing from here.